Real Social Dynamics

I realised that social dynamics in the real world means, going through believe system of thoughts.

When your clique grows and they feel they have become bigger than you. You are now the weakest link and they eat you alive as the lone wolf.

They scapegoat you and tell you that you are worthless and that your happiness is for gays, whatever that means.

Its a funny world of popularity out there, but yeah there are those that can give value, which is the highest on the list.

All I know is i've been told I am problematic and always talk about things, rather than get things done.

Whatever that means, it could mean. I ain't driving the latest fastest car. So I ain't cool enough.

I don't hang around people with cars so I ain't cool enough.

All I've been told is red herrings and that as a friend. I am shit.

Nice and what is more is that now people are jumping on board to say the same thing. So now it is appropriate to tell me when its built up? What does that tell you about them? Office politics gossip.

Someone has been bitching to make themselves look good, and I sat there not playing their game.

Well I guess I am the lone wolf for being better than they are.

And they expect me to kowtow.

Anyway hopefully I learn, from this. I cannot let people get the satisfaction of bringing me down.

I hope they are happy, It appears now they have all they want. It is time to fob off the weakest link.

80/20 principle in order. Sad but it also saves me work dealing with people of different values. Thank God that we actually have choices to say goodbye.

Resilience

For Asian families, I would say they make sacrifices to gain a stable life.

Materialism and face value is important in their life.

I think that most chinese families expect alot of their siblings and they tell people off, penalising and not promoting the good things that happen.

In a Hakka family, alot of negative words get thrown in the semantics and they bring anxiety on themselves.

They value people with money but for me, it isn't about the outcome of the success but it is about the process on how you get there.

I believe that we have so much expectations that we jeopardise our own efforts to become our peak performance.

It is such a tall order to become the best and maybe compete with the Wongs or any other asian family.

Overworking is foolish in my opinion. It is better to become smarter and work to become high value by valuing others for things that are working out.

I call this the 80/20 principle where you find the 20% of things that work for you.

You must find the 20% of things that are going for you, it will give you 80% success.

Perhaps finding a new toolset skills to talk with family members. But to satisfy someone is foolish, in my opinion. Because lets face it, it might not be something you enjoy but for acceptance of your spectator.

I say go do what you enjoy and find a way to give value by making others lives better by helping them and find a win/win.

I believe the key to success is how you communicate with people. Being fair to yourself. Take responsibility for actions. And learn to bounce back from your mistakes and failures.

Social value is important to most, I don't think materialism is important. How you make others feel is more important. But I have also been through my turmoil periods to gain insight. How I regard others is important.

No one is really out to get you. That is the truth. Everyone is going through their own set of circumstances and really want you to succeed, but the human conditions are inevitable. Alot of people avoid people who moan alot about their problems.

I believe learning to talk with family is important. You want to establish the pros and cons of the family values. If it doesn't work, then it is time for solutions. Times change, just as politics change.

Find a way to remove your high tall order. It doesn't help that your dad gives you them, but maybe listening to him might be a way to level with him. Emotional Intelligence might help, to remove anxiety and bring him awareness. I don't believe that they meant to jeopardise things, but are helpless for a new situation to work, so they put their foot down and expect their old methods to work. When it is clearly not in this period.

Be solution orientated, focus on the process, forget the outcome, think positive, exercise the good habits.

Think about it and slow down, find your resilience.

We are in a Love game and fighting with ourselves.

I had a go on the Pof dating site, is it me or do I suck at these things?

Maybe it is a Love game. To see if we can improve contingencies to better ourselves from the "I ain't good enough to function as a person". But if guys could read minds, we would know if we are winning or losing. We don't so lets focus on what we can.

I have been on at night, using the Pof app, thinking there could be a lady out there who just might, think differently to how I feel. Yet relate somewhere. But I feel most women are out for the outcome lifestyle. The money, the power and the escalating success and influence.

Sure it is attractive, the reality is we as humans can reach a snag and feel like we 'carry ourselves through to the shore with just one armband'.

As I get older, I give myself more and more excuses not to go for something as the reason is too stressful. Sure for things to work, there has to be sweat equity and some resilience. I ain't got that art right and I can be brutally honest to depressive states. When I am high rolling. I am singing Edd Sheeran songs or listening to Carly Rae Jepson's recent lush tune.

The more I rant though, the more I feel I am lonely but the truth is we all are.

The only thing is what I do from here to who excites me to take it to the next level....

Journey of a thousand Miles begins with each step.

I am doing the impossible today, because I am undisciplined as an adult, I will be celibate and give up Vaping e-cigarettes. I simply have no self esteem from these behaviors as I feel these are redundant behaviors. I might be crazy, but this is a journey of a thousand miles, to discipline. No one feels like they are in control, if they are not in control of themselves first.

Do you have any suggestions to help me with my journey of discipline?

This is definitely what I hope to achieve, I have failed many times, but I also feel I have practiced being slightly stronger. I also know I may have borderline psychosis after this. Swearing myself silly.

But it is all in the name of persistent success as a spiritual warrior.

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

― Rumi