Resilience

For Asian families, I would say they make sacrifices to gain a stable life.

Materialism and face value is important in their life.

I think that most chinese families expect alot of their siblings and they tell people off, penalising and not promoting the good things that happen.

In a Hakka family, alot of negative words get thrown in the semantics and they bring anxiety on themselves.

They value people with money but for me, it isn't about the outcome of the success but it is about the process on how you get there.

I believe that we have so much expectations that we jeopardise our own efforts to become our peak performance.

It is such a tall order to become the best and maybe compete with the Wongs or any other asian family.

Overworking is foolish in my opinion. It is better to become smarter and work to become high value by valuing others for things that are working out.

I call this the 80/20 principle where you find the 20% of things that work for you.

You must find the 20% of things that are going for you, it will give you 80% success.

Perhaps finding a new toolset skills to talk with family members. But to satisfy someone is foolish, in my opinion. Because lets face it, it might not be something you enjoy but for acceptance of your spectator.

I say go do what you enjoy and find a way to give value by making others lives better by helping them and find a win/win.

I believe the key to success is how you communicate with people. Being fair to yourself. Take responsibility for actions. And learn to bounce back from your mistakes and failures.

Social value is important to most, I don't think materialism is important. How you make others feel is more important. But I have also been through my turmoil periods to gain insight. How I regard others is important.

No one is really out to get you. That is the truth. Everyone is going through their own set of circumstances and really want you to succeed, but the human conditions are inevitable. Alot of people avoid people who moan alot about their problems.

I believe learning to talk with family is important. You want to establish the pros and cons of the family values. If it doesn't work, then it is time for solutions. Times change, just as politics change.

Find a way to remove your high tall order. It doesn't help that your dad gives you them, but maybe listening to him might be a way to level with him. Emotional Intelligence might help, to remove anxiety and bring him awareness. I don't believe that they meant to jeopardise things, but are helpless for a new situation to work, so they put their foot down and expect their old methods to work. When it is clearly not in this period.

Be solution orientated, focus on the process, forget the outcome, think positive, exercise the good habits.

Think about it and slow down, find your resilience.